Are you feeling lonely and unsatisfied with your life? Do you lack close friendships or find yourself in conflict much of the time? Does anxiety hijack your life leaving you feeling isolated and alone?
Lavender Counselling is here to support you as you work through stumbling blocks in your life. Here are some common client questions.
What is your basic approach?
We start where you're at. That can mean doing shorter goal-oriented therapy or long-term therapy focused on personal growth, or something in between. Our style is reflective, honest, caring, and pragmatic. Our therapy should help people clarify and cope with their emotions and connect to what gives meaning to their lives. We have experience with many forms of therapy and ultimately will match our interventions to a treatment plan based on your needs, goals, and desires. All of our counsellors employ a tri-phasic model of trauma counselling to their work.
How long will therapy take?
The length of time you spend in therapy will depend on your goals and how comfortable you are with making changes. Your seventh session is generally a good point to assess how well therapy is working for you. Also, you are welcome to work on a short-term goal and finish therapy, and then come back at a later point to revisit the issue, to address a different issue, or for longer-term growth. Once you've been a client of ours, you are welcome back at anytime - our doors are always open to you.
I've never been in therapy before. What is it like?
Therapy sessions consist mostly of talking—primarily the client talking and the therapist listening in order to understand, support, and offer help as appropriate. Through this kind of talking, we should establish a trusting, professional relationship that you can grow in. And a key part of that growth is learning through experience how the process works for you.
During your first session, we'll do an assessment of your problems and goals and what kinds of treatment might be helpful. The assessment is a good time to ask more detailed questions about therapy. In future sessions we will work together to resolve problems and explore the goals you've set.
I'm worried that I'm too messed up for therapy.
If you feel troubled or have had bad experiences it's easy to feel that way. Therapy helps you to find new thoughts and feelings about yourself. Our stance is to respect where you are and understand what's been going on in your life so that we can support you.
My last therapist didn't help.
You're right to be shy about therapy if it didn't work. Please let us know what you didn't connect with in your last therapy. Therapy is very individual so not every therapist or style of therapy works with everyone. That's why we offer a complimentary in-office consultation so you can get a sense of the counsellor and ensure it is a good fit for you. Ultimately, our primary hope is for you to be satisfied with your life, so if we don't think we can help you we will refer you to someone who may be a better fit.
Will you do therapy with me if I'm just interested in personal growth or having a sounding board?
Yes, both of these are valid goals for therapy, and in your first session, we can confirm what you'd like to accomplish.
I have more questions before I decide if therapy is right for me.
You're welcome to ask them during our complimentary in-office consultation. You can schedule a session online at www.lavendercounselling.com and then scroll down to the schedule an appointment button. You can also call 604.455.8399 to book an appointment.